“Kids Helping Kids” through Divorce and Alienation. A project of Guias Marstellar, an 18 yr old Survivor of Alientation.

We are starting to have many kids that would like to express their feelings while going through the emotional turmoil of hostile divorces, so what better way to help the children then to have parents and children together, and speak about everything and anything!

He is also willing to talk to parents who have so many questions on the feelings they may want to know a child has when the Target Parent is trying to have parenting time, or simply communications with an Alienated child.

Ask questions of each other and learn about what your children are feeling while going through this. Sometimes kids listen to other adults better than their own parents, and parents listen better to other kids!

This is a part of a pilot program that The Lee PAS Foundation is sponsoring for a young man deturmined to help children and parents through PA.

“HI, my name is Guias Marstellar I’m 18 I too was involved with Parental Alienation. I went through watching my parents’ divorce and was not only hard for me but my siblings and parents as well. I went from loving both to hating one to loving both again. I’m not sure why I hated one for so long I think it was because I held a grudge against the one who I believed hurt me. Which was wrong, and I do regret it.

If any of you need my help or would like to talk email me directly through this site if you are a member, look at my blog & articles or email me through Guias.PAS.12@gmail.com. You can also find me on Facebook and myspace. Much love.-G”

Let’s make this a success for the kids, and for all the children who are hurting and need another child to talk with!!!

“Kids Helping Kids” through Divorce and Alienation. A project of Guias Marstellar, an 18 yr old Survivor of Alientation.

We are starting to have many kids that would like to express their feelings while going through the emotional turmoil of hostile divorces, so what better way to help the children then to have parents and children together, and speak about everything and anything!

He is also willing to talk to parents who have so many questions on the feelings they may want to know a child has when the Target Parent is trying to have parenting time, or simply communications with an Alienated child.

Ask questions of each other and learn about what your children are feeling while going through this. Sometimes kids listen to other adults better than their own parents, and parents listen better to other kids!

This is a part of a pilot program that The Lee PAS Foundation is sponsoring for a young man deturmined to help children and parents through PA.

“HI, my name is Guias Marstellar I’m 18 I too was involved with Parental Alienation. I went through watching my parents’ divorce and was not only hard for me but my siblings and parents as well. I went from loving both to hating one to loving both again. I’m not sure why I hated one for so long I think it was because I held a grudge against the one who I believed hurt me. Which was wrong, and I do regret it.

If any of you need my help or would like to talk email me directly through this site if you are a member, look at my blog & articles or email me through Guias.PAS.12@gmail.com. You can also find me on Facebook and myspace. Much love.-G”

Let’s make this a success for the kids, and for all the children who are hurting and need another child to talk with!!!

Our Mission Statement

Our mission at Three Sides to Every Story is a very simple one. “Unity” for children and their families after divorce or separation is our goal.

Our founder found herself in the middle of the battle of her life when her son lost his children through divorce. The lies and fraud that were committed to keep these children away for eight very long years was something she did not want to relive…for she herself is the product of the same abuse and deception as a child.

We strive to bring awareness to the plight of the children and their families.

No child deserves to go to bed at night with the feeling of not being loved by both parents and both sides of grandparents and all of their extended family.

Our goal is to educate not only both parents, but to bring awareness to all those that help make the laws of our land.

Children Need Both Parents

And by all means

They Deserve to Have Loving Grandparents in Their Lives.

Bessie Hudgins

Bryan’s topics include:
Overcoming Adversity
We all have experienced difficulties in our lives. The rollercoaster of life, at times, can be overwhelming. Each end everyone one of us has the capability to create, experience and share hope and joy. Bryan shares his experiences of his lifelong search for his mother, brain injury, difficult relationships, losing his daughter to show overcoming the difficult times and experiencing life at it's fullest is possible after tragedy.



Parental Abduction/Alienation
When a parent abducts their own child the taking parent must implement Parental Alienation in order to control the child. These tactics used on the child to create hate and fear of the targeted parent can have lifelong affects, known as Parental Alienation Syndrome, PAS. Bryan explains his father's destructive tactics he used for decades to control Bryan and how Parental Alienation still effects Bryan, forty years later.
“My brain injury and recovery was the toughest two years of my life… but I would not trade the experience for a million dollars.”

Bryan, abducted at two years old by his father, Bryan searched for his mother for years, finally finding her three decades later. He painfully discovered his mother had searched for him for years then, giving up, she attempted suicide.


Bryan speaks about his family tragedy and rebirth at public presentations and in his book Have You Seen My Mother.



Today, Bryan is a world traveler, public speaker, author and professional actor.


Happiness is not found in the physical, but rather, the conscious and unconscious mind, one’s attitude, helping others and achievement of life goals.

Abducted at two years old by his father, Bryan searched for his mother for years, finally finding her three decades later.


He painfully discovered his mother had searched for him for years then, giving up, she attempted suicide.


Bryan speaks about his family tragedy and rebirth at public presentations and in his book Have You Seen My Mother.

You can contact Bryan for for a Speaking Engagement at:
bryan@bryanleemc.com

Abe Worenklein, Ph.D. has been in practice for more than 30 years as a clinical and forensic family psychologist who specializes in the evaluation of high conflict and highly litigious situations involving parental alienation, child sexual abuse allegations, and relocation disputes. He has been declared an expert witness by courts in Canada and the United States and has presented at professional conferences in Canada, the United States and Europe. He has testified in more than 600 trials and has been an expert witness in some of the early groundbreaking cases in Quebec on parental alienation.

Dr. Worenklein received his Ph.D. at the Universite de Montreal and is a professor at Dawson College in Montreal and an adjuct at Concordia University, where he has taught Forensic Psychology, Psychology and the Law, etc. In addition to the high conflict family evaluations that he conducts, he also has been certified as a family mediator with advanced training.

In addition to being licensed by the Ordre des Psychologues du Quebec, he is also a member of th Canadian Register of Health Service Providers in Psychology and has a Certifcate of Professional Qualification by the Association of State and Provincial Psychology Boards.

Dr. Baker has a Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology from Teachers College of Columbia University.

Her areas of research include parental alienation, child welfare, parent involvement in their children's education, early intervention, and attachment. She is the Director of Research at the Vincent J. Fontana Center for Child Protection.

Dr. Baker is a nationally recognized expert in parent child relationships, especially children of divorce, parental alienation syndrome, and emotional abuse of children.

What happens to children who are manipulated by one parent to turn against the other parent? Do these children ever figure it out and reconcile with their "lost" parent?

New York Times Coverage
In the Times interview Joe, one of 40 individuals who participated in Dr. Baker's research study, explain’s how the emotional manipulation and control he experienced by his father ultimately resulted in the complete denigration, abuse, and rejection of his mother. The interview, like Baker’s book, also explores what led to Joe rethinking his childhood, finally freeing himself from his father’s lies and abuse and reconciling with his mother. Unfortunately, Joe’s story is far from unique, especially as rates of divorce and custody disputes continue to increase. Baker’s book provides the first insider’s glimpse into the world of PAS and its long-term effects and was written for targeted parents as well as the legal and mental health professionals working with them.


Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome:

Breaking the Ties that Bind
W.W. Norton, April 2007

What happens to children who are manipulated by one parent to turn against the other parent? Do these children ever figure it out and reconcile with their "lost" parent?

"Adult children of parent alienation syndrome" presents the answers to these questions based on research interviews with 40 adults who were alienated from a parent as a child.

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Dr. Baker is a nationally recognized expert in parent child relationships, especially children of divorce, parental alienation syndrome, and emotional abuse of children.

Dr. Baker is available as an expert witness, and also for print, radio, and television interviews.



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Dr Ludwig F.Lowenstein M.A., Dip. Psych., Ph.D. founded Allington Manor in 1978, following years of experience as a Consultant Psychologist and after serving the Hampshire Education Authority as Chief Educational Psychologist.

Dr Lowenstein obtained his M.A. and Doctorate in Psychology and Education at London University, and is one of Britain’s most quoted authorities on psychology in Education. His background includes work on mental hospitals, child guidance clinics and residential centres for maladjusted adolescents in New York City. He served as a teacher, a welfare officer, and, in Australia, as a probation officer. Over the years he has held such appointments as: Director of Assessment and Guidance for maladajusted boys with learning difficulties, London and Winchester; Chief Examiner in Education Psychology, College of Preceptors, London; former educational psychologist in Essex and London; Visiting Lecturer to the Universities of London, Southampton, Maryland (U.S.A.), and Visiting Professor to the University of Khartoum (Sudan), as well as to many U.K. Colleges of Technology and teacher training colleges. His appointments have included a directorship of the International Council of Psychologists and the Chair of the Hampshire Association for Gifted Children. He has also written widely on the subject of educational psychology and forensic psychology, and as it’s first Editor-in-Chief, helped found the journal School Psychology International. Articles on his research into the philosophy, diagnosis and treatment of children with problems are available on request, as are his books.

He was made an honorary member of the Polish Medical Society for acting as consultant to the setting up of a therapeutic community near Warsaw similar to that of Allington Manor, giving lecturers and donating a book dealing with the functioning of the Centre. Louis Pasteur was one of the persons who achieved this honour outside Poland. He is currently an Educational and Psychological Consultant. He was made a fellow of the college of Preceptors and has also published books and over 360 articles on a variety of subjects including those dealing with Forensic matters.

Email:ludwig.lowenstein@btinternet.com

GENERAL EDUCATION QUALIFICATIONS

(A) B.A. Degree. University of Western Australia, (1955-1958.)
Subjects taken:- Psychology, Education, English, German, Philosophy , Sociology.

(B) M.A. Degree. University of London, (1958 - 1960.)
Birkbeck College.
Title of Research:- The Psychological Needs of Sub-Normal Children as Assessed by a Thematic Apperception Test.
Examiner of Thesis - Prof. C. A. Mace.

(C) Diploma in Clinical and Educational Psychology. Institute of Psychiatry, University of London, (1961 - 1962.)

(D) Ph. D. University of London, (1966.)
Main Research:- An Application of Group Operant Conditioning.
Thesis Examiner:- Prof. Vernon and Dr. G. Jones.

(E) C. Psychol. AFBPsS. Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society.
Membership Number:- 21085.

PRESENT EXPERIENCE

-Director, Allington Manor Psychological Services.
-Honorary Member of the Polish Medical Society.
-Member of the Association of Educational Psychologists (A.E.P.), Great Britain.
-Member of the American Psychological Association (APA) Membership no: 3064/8272.
-Visiting Professor to the Jungian Society, Zurich, Switzerland.
-Member of the International Foundation of Learning. (Canada.)
-Member of Editorial Board of the International Journal of Group Tensions.
-Member of Editorial Board of Special Services in the Schools Journal.
-Member of Editorial Board of Journal of Applied School Psychology.
-Consulting Editor:- Suicide and Life Threatening Behaviour Journal.
-Chairman, and Trustee - Children of High Intelligence.
-Member of the Special Group in Clinical Neuropsychology.
-Member of The British Academy of Forensic Sciences.
-Member of Editorial Board of Quarterly Journal of Mental Health
-Member of the College of Teachers

PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE

-(1968 - 1974.) Chief Educational Psychologist, Hampshire C.C. - Head of Psychology and Educational Psychology in charge of 12 qualified psychologists, other staff and trainees.
-Visiting Lecturer to the Department of Sociology for the University of Southampton and Reading College of Technology.
-(1974 - 1976.) Independent Clinical - Educational Consultant Psychologist.
-Director of Assessment and Guidance Centre (London and Winchester.)
-Visiting Lecturer:- London University; University of Southampton; Reading College of Technology; Southampton Technical College; and University of Maryland, U.S.A.
-Visiting Professor of Psychology and Education, Faculty of Education,
University of Khartoum, Omdurman, Sudan - Development of Child Guidance and Special Education in the Sudan.
-Former Editor-in-Chief, School Psychology International. (1979 - 1985.).
-Former Director of International Council of Psychologists (ICP) (1981 - 3.)
-Former Chairman - Hampshire Branch of the Association for Gifted Children, (1981 - 1983.)
-Former Honorary Secretary of I.S.P.A. (1983 - 1985.)
-Former Chairman of the Consultative Committee on Solvent Abuse, Hampshire.
-Former Treasurer of the British Rorschach Forum Trust
-(1964 - 1967) Area Clinical Psychologist for Essex, (1964.)
-(1962 - 1964) Educational Psychologist, London County Council.
-(Before 1962.) Market Research, Industrial Psychology. Teacher. Research, Journalism, Army (Paratrooper), Tree - Felling, Lifeguard, Factory Worker, Farmer, Sailor, Swimming Instructor, Security Guard, Painter, Carpenter, Boat Builder, Foundry Worker.

REFEREES AND TESTIMONIALS

(A) Prof. Charles Spielberger, Director, Centre for Research on Community Psychology, University of South Florida, Tampa, Florida 33620, U.S.A.
(B) Dr Peter Merenda, University of Rhode Island, Kingston, RI 02881, U.S.A.
(C) Dr Frances Culbertson, University of Wisconsin - Whitewater, 800 West Main Street,
Whitewater, Wisconsin 53190, U.S.A.
(D) Mr W. Briggs, 2 Lynford Avenue, Winchester, Hants.
(E) Dr G, Watson, 49 Woodfield Drive, Winchester, Hants.
(F) Professor C. Mace, (Deceased) - Testimonial.
(G) Professor Sybil Eysenck, Department of Psychology, Institute of Psychiatry, De Crespigny Park,
Denmark Hill, London. SE5 8AH, Great Britain.


MEMBERSHIPS

(A) American Psychological Association. – Member & Foreign Affiliate.
(B) National Association of Gifted Children. - Consultant to.
(C) Chairman of CHI (Children of High Intelligence)
(D) International Council of Psychologists. - Director (1983.) Director 2nd term (1999-2000)
(E) Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society.
(F) Fellow of the College of Preceptors (now the College of Teachers).
(G) UK Register of Expert Witnesses.
(H) The Expert Witness Directory.
(I) Member of the Academy of Expert Witnesses.
(J) Member of Expert Witness.
(K) APIL Expert Witness Database.
(L) AVMA Database. (M) Chartered Scientist of British Psychological Society.

In today’s changing social landscape, divorce has become a significant and immutable feature. Currently, more marriages end in divorce than do not. The reasons for this are many and complex, and although these reasons are debated, the fact of the predominance of divorce is not disputed. With this upswing in divorce comes also an explosion in the number of children of divorce.

Due primarily to social and legal changes that occurred in the 1970’s, the dilemma of where and with whom the child would live primarily became a reality that more of us knew directly or indirectly. Simply put, child custody disputes have became a much more prominent feature of our everyday lives. Children are routinely fought over in custody disputes, and seldom does a day pass that one does not hear of some tragic and sometime violent event that occurred in the context of a custody dispute. Related to this, the courts have become choked with allegations of one spouse abusing the other spouse and/ or the children, again in the context of one of these custody disputes. It is within this complex social and legal context that the terms Parental Alienation and Parental Alienation Syndrome were born.

This website is devoted to addressing this phenomenon of Parental Alienation and its legacy Parental Alienation Syndrome, also known as PAS. The purpose of this website is for the education of parents, mental health professionals, attorneys and judges, who find themselves dealing with these terribly difficult issues.

Dr. Farrell has taught at the School of Medicine at the University of California in San Diego, as well as at Georgetown University, Rutgers, Brooklyn College, American University, and the California School of Professional Psychology. He has taught in political science, psychology, sociology, sexual politics, and public administration. He does expert witness work to assure children of divorce both parents.

Dr. Farrell listens to both sexes: On the one hand, he has served on the boards of four national men's and fathers' organizations; and on the other, he is the only man in the US to ever have been elected three times to the Board of Directors of the National Organization for Women (N.O.W.) in New York City. Dr. Farrell is also the only person selected to speak at former California Governor Wilson's Conference on Men as well as his Conference on Women.

Warren has appeared eight times on Donahue, and repeatedly on the Oprah Winfrey Show, as well as on the ABC World News with Peter Jennings, the Today Show with Barbara Walters, Crossfire, and Larry King Live. He has been the subject of features on 20/20, and in People, and has written for The New York Times.